Not now. I'm busy.

There are times when those we love or have a relationship with ask for our attention. It may appear to be inopportune for you at the moment. You are in the midst of an important task and don't wish to be interrupted. So you reply with a curt, "Not now. I'm busy." How does the other person feel as you speak those words? They have just been dismissed. What is it like for you when you are dismissed? This may not be your intention, and it bears further consideration. Perhaps another approach would we to say, "This sounds important to you. I want to give you my full attention because you deserve nothing less than that. I should be done here in ___ minutes. Can we talk then?" It takes less than 10 seconds for such a response and it is respectful of the person and his or her needs. It may require a conscious effort on your part to address the other person in this manner, but may well be worth that effort. You have now strengthened the bond between you. When was the last time you took time from your busy schedule to listen to the concerns of those around you?