What others say about me

Have you ever wondered what others say about you? While this may be related to what we refer to as your reputation, how much bearing does it have on what you do and say? Do you adapt a “people pleaser” approach to life or maybe an “I could care less what people think of me” attitude? Perhaps it all depends on who the other person is. In the end, what really matters is what you say about yourself and to yourself. How are you communicating this message to others? There is a saying that we teach others how to treat us based on how they see us treating ourselves. Do you treat yourself as a person who is worthy of respect or more of a doormat? If there is anything about this situation that you would like to change, what would your first step be in making that happen? If you value people pleasing as a way to have others interact with you, what do you think their commitment to the relationship is? Most likely it is based on having their needs met above yours. In the long run, they may not hold a high opinion of you since you are simply a means to an end for them. If you demonstrate respect for yourself, others will act in kind. They will respect your boundaries and listen to your concerns. Take time to reflect on how you present yourself to others and ask what message this is sending. What does this say about how you are treating yourself and what might you need to change?