A loving touch

We are told that we require at least four hugs a day just for survival and 12 or more for growth. Studies have shown a significant difference in the physical, cognitive, and emotional levels of infants who were touch deprived as opposed to those who were held. Being held and touched feeds our need for safety and security. Yet we are living in a world that limits human contact. We spend endless hours sitting across from a computer screen, watching television, and playing video games. These are solitary activities that separate us from others. The good news is that physical touch is not affected by generational differences. That supports the value of touch across time. Think of what it is like for you when you connect with someone as a demonstration of genuine caring. Your stress level decreases and there is an increase in a hormone known as oxytocin that helps create a sensation of trust. There have been studies that show that winning sports teams tend to engage in higher levels of physical touch than those who are losing. We are programmed for touch. It is not surprising that the largest organ of the body is the skin. When was the last time you were touched? When did you last initiate touching? Look for ways to reach out to others through touch. It could be a pat on the back, a high five, or a hug. Keep a count of how many times you receive touching and strive for at least twelve contacts. What will your number be today?