The good in others

Is there someone in your life who just seems to say and do all the right things? You can spend hours with them and never tire of the relationship. And then there are those people in your life who just seem to constantly grate on your nerves. All you have to do is see them coming through the door and you just know that your day is going to be ruined. What is the difference between these two relationships? When you are with the first person, you know that he or she is demonstrating all the personal qualities you admire. He or she may be good at listening, have a good sense of humor, or be an upbeat person. The second person may be a chronic complainer, be insensitive, or self-centered. When we expect positive behaviors from someone, we tend to have that experience with them. The same is true of the person we see with negative or irritating qualities. One approach to being around people that we see as less than appealing to be with is to identify one positive trait in him or her. It may not be easy to do, but it is possible. Maybe he or she is creative as expressed through a certain task performed. Focus on that aspect of them and how good you feel when you see that quality being demonstrated. You will eventually experience a shift in your relationship with them. You have to remember that even the person you love spending time with the most doesn't possess only positive qualities. It is just that you don't tend to focus on the less attractive ones. The same can be true of others if you give it a chance. At least it will make your day more pleasant, and isn't that what we are trying to do? Who is the person you would like to have a more personable relationship with and what is one quality he or she has that is worth focusing on to begin